Letting go....

Psalm 18:6-In my distress I called upon the Lord, and cried to my God for help; He heard my voice out of His temple, and my cry for help before Him came into His ears.

Sometimes that hardest thing to do is to let go.  Life is filled with hurts and disappointments.  The problem is we have a tendency to hold onto things.  When someone hurts us deeply we clutch onto that hurt and hold onto is for a long time.  We think that if we let it go then it's pretending it never happened.  We are hurt and we can't ignore that.  Letting go doesn't mean that the hurt or disappointment never happened.  So what are we suppose to do?  You have heard the saying "Let go and let God".  That is so much easier said than done.  For the longest time I didn't know how to let things go.  People around me said that I needed to "get over it"; that I needed to just "forget it and move on".  But I didn't know how.  I was so tired of people telling me what I needed to do but not telling me how to do it.  So what did I do?  I cried out to God and I kept seeking Him trying to figure out what I needed to do.  How do I let things go?  It took me awhile but I finally got it.  Letting go is not a matter of a one time deal.  There are many times that I let things go over and over again.  I have to continually surrender it to Him.  I had to learn how to let it go and allow God to heal my hurt.  God can't heal your hurt if you don't go to Him and give it to Him.  You have to hand your heart to Him and allow Him to heal it.  God gives us other Christians for a reason, it also helps to find an older, godly, Christian woman that you can confide in, someone who will point you to Christ.  Someone who will help you through the healing process and not just brush it off.  Those are the two things that I learned, continual surrender and confiding in a older more mature Christian.

 It is not easy.  But a wound will not heal by just putting pressure on it, by stuffing your emotions inside.  Just as you have to clean a wound before it can heal, God has to clean your wound before He can heal it.  God uses other Christians to clean out your wound.  Talking through what hurt you and facing what is going on is sometimes the hardest step to do because it makes you face the hurt and re-live what happened, but it is a necessary step in cleaning your wound.  Once you do that God can start the healing process.  Eventually your wound does heal and it always leaves a scar.  But scars can be a good thing, they remind you of what God has done and how far He has brought you.  Scars are hurts that God has turned into victories.  It took me not having anyone to talk to about my hurt to really learn how to rely on God, how to run to Him, how to cleave to Him, and how to get my strength from Him.  Sometimes relying on God is our last resort when it should be our first reaction.  God wants you to let go of whatever has hurt you.  He wants you to come to Him.  He wants to heal you.  He doesn't want to see you in so much pain.  He wants to be able to use you!  So will you let it go and give it to Him?  Allow Him to deal with it, allow Him to heal you. 

Always in my prayers,
Jessica